Last week I turned the BIG 3-0. In the run up I was telling everyone I knew that I was pretending that it wasn’t happening and it was all a big misunderstanding. How was I turning 30? When did that even happen? It’s true, I was born on the 24th April back in the late 80’s at 5.30am in the morning – and I’ve been an early bird ever since then. In my 30 years on this planet, I thought it was time to get back on track with the blog and give some insight in what I think are the key things I’ve learnt whilst I’ve been here:
- You have to believe in yourself.
You can have all of the friends and family in the world who will tell you how awesome you are but in the end of the day, you really need to believe in yourself. And I’m saying this as someone who still doesn’t believe in herself most of the time. It’s a long journey to get there but loving who you are and believing in the choices that you make are such a HUGE thing to learn.
- You won’t know what you want to do with your life.
And I still don’t. This goes for your career, where you’re going to live and the other endless decisions that you make from whether you save up for that once-in-a-lifetime holiday or go on 5 mini breaks. The decisions are going to be relentless, and the older you get, the bigger the decision you need to make and it’s OK to get some of them wrong. The ones you think you get wrong or sometimes the ones that are totally right! I’m a big believer in what will be will be, and when you make a certain decision to do something – there is probably a reason why.
- Value quality over quantity.
Now this just doesn’t apply to your material items but as a starter for ten, that is something that I’m getting better at. Yes, I now buy more things from Marks and Spencers and John Lewis rather than Primark because I know that by spending that extra £15 is going to make the difference.
This also applies to the people in your life. You will have friends who were friends for a reason in your life at that time – this could be work mates who you spent 40 hours in the week and then stopped working there, and it just went completely cold, it could be the uni mates that you lived with for 3 years and now never speak to – it’s fine. I now choose the people who I spend time with who I have genuine relationships with and not just the people who I was once mates with at one point, and trying to make a friendship that doesn’t need to be there.
- Don’t settle when it comes to your heart.
This is a biggie. A real biggie. Don’t settle peeps. We have ALL been in relationships that make SO much sense at the time but really were you that happy? I took a chance on a relationship that was very broken at the time but I knew in my gut and in my heart, that it was the right decision. We are now very happily together 4 (and a bit) years later and getting married next year but it wasn’t an easy decision to make, but it was one worth fighting for. Love should feel easy but you sometimes need to overcome some obstacles to get there and when you finally get there, I promise you that it’s totally worth it.
- Make sure you love what you do at work.
You spend however many hours a week at work, doing work things, whatever that may be. All I say is love and feel passionate about what you do – you’re going to be doing it for a really bloody long time. Also, if you decide to change careers, that is also absolutely fine! You don’t have to be our grandparents that chose a career and worked for the same company for 50 years – if you want to expand your opportunities then do it.
All I’m saying here is that these are the things I’ve learnt and how my perception of the world has changed. I may not be right but I’m fine about that but I’ve stopped being scared of my 30’s but have decided to embrace them as a new exciting chapter of my life!