There is so much talk around at the moment on what being a feminist means – I’m a huge feminist because I believe in the rights of every single woman out there, and more importantly have the belief that women should support women. There are so many incidents, and I have been victim to these in the past, where women feel the need to beat down and shut down other women because they feel that it’s the only way to get ahead in life. It’s not. Saying that, I’ve worked with some absolutely incredible women and men who have been so supportive of a young woman building her career and her confidence that I feel that I need to support those around me – whatever that dream may be.
Now, with this comes a lot of conversation of women loving themselves for who they are and not changing. I totally agree inherently that women should feel empowered and confident in who they are as a person and no matter what size or shape they come in. And there’s me losing weight – how does that align being a feminist? Well, I shall tell you – it’s because I want to do it. Women shouldn’t be made to feel bad about wanting to lose weight, be healthier and changing their lifestyle. I’m not sitting here saying that I want to look like a certain celebrity, I’m not doing some fad diet where I drink cayenne pepper and maple syrup in water for two weeks to drop the weight and I’m not punishing myself in the gym for four hours a day to get the body I want. I like to think of it as balance.
Yes, I am following Slimming World. Yes, that comes with some rules and restrictions that some people think don’t work like, why aren’t avocados a free food? And why are you allowed to eat as many potatoes as you like? But in the end of the day, it’s what I am choosing to follow and I am losing the weight with it. I also will admit that I am far from perfect in following the plan – I love chocolate. You are allowed chocolate within your syns but I also like wine and there are days when just a huge glass of red wine is the only thing that will suffice after a momumentally shit day at work. But you make it work and you pull back the next day. I think what I love about the plan is that it’s helped me become far more balanced in my approach to food and generally my lifestyle.
I am slimming for The Dress. Yes, I tried to lose weight before I got engaged and it never seemed to stick but knowing that you will be photographed within an inch of your life by your entire wedding party is enough to make sure you want to feel your best. I am a curvy girl and I LOVE my curves. I have a rather large rack and I also have a decent enough bum – this DOES NOT MEAN I want to lose those things, I just want to enhance them. I “found” recently that I have a waist – WHO KNEW?! I’ve spent most of my life going straight up and down with my buddha belly sticking out the front. Through losing weight and exercising, my waist has decided to make an appearance and if I’m honest, it feels bloody amazing.
I am a feminist. I am proud of it. I love women. I love watching women who embody empowerment and confidence – idols include Michelle Obama and Adele (yes, I’m a huge fangirl). But I want to feel more confident and for me, I will feel that way through losing weight and embracing the new shape that I’ve been finding. Women are awesome and I have some absolutely incredible girlfriends who have been there every single step of the way. I’d also like to point out that men are pretty awesome too – I have incredible male friends, and The Boy, who are constant supporters of me and who inspire me every day to just go to the next step. Enjoy your bodies whether you’re in the process of changing them or just embracing whatever size you are. You are pretty awesome.